There’s a common saying, I wonder if you know it: “If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.” I don’t love it. I understand what it’s trying to inspire—a motto for us to remember what we deserve and only keep people in our lives who can handle it when we show up not-so-perfectly. But, I dunno, the thing that bothers me is … if we love this person, if they really mean that much to us, I feel like we should go out of our way to make them feel appreciated and considered, not dumped on and like they get the worst of us. I’ve seen this many times in relationships. Because one person feels so comfortable and safe in the relationship, the other person ends up getting all their stress, all their anxiety, sometimes their misplaced anger and gets positioned as …